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The Biblical Man: Singleness

Singleness PowerPoint

Christian Dating Principles for Both Men and Women

1. Maximize your singleness for God.
2. Do not pursue a relationship until you are ready to marry.
3. Be reasonable – do not set your expectations too high or too low.
4. A date is not dating: date = time together; dating = couple (1 Tim. 5:1-2).
5. Never go on a date or date a non-Christian (2 Cor. 6:14).
6. Only date one person at a time.
7. He initiates; she responds.
8. Look at who God puts in front of you (e.g. Boaz & Ruth).
9. Feel free to use technology (e.g. internet dating) wisely.
10. Only invest in a relationship with someone who you are attracted to entirely (e.g. physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, ministry gifts).
11. Only date someone who agrees with you on gender and family.
12. Guard your heart (Prov. 4:23).

Christian Dating Questions for Men

1. Are you overlooking good women (e.g. single moms, shy, divorcees)?
2. Are you honoring, God, her, her family, her friends, etc.?
3. Is she modest (1 Tim. 2:9)?
4. Will she follow your leadership?
5. Does she have noble character (Prov. 31)?
6. Can you provide for the lifestyle she expects (1 Tim. 5:8)?
7. Is she like the worst women in Proverbs (e.g. nag, loud, quarreling, unfaithful)?
8. Do you want your daughters to be like her and your sons to marry someone like her?

14-06-2008

Casey says:
I struggle with finding the right woman because the patterns of dating I learned while a non-Christian are hard to break. Also, I often find good women to date who I know not to be Christian, and there is a struggle with letting her go and remaining single, or trying to make it work. I appreciate Pastor Driscoll’s explanation that if I were to acknowledge from the get-go that I would not have intentions of marrying the girl, then I am dishonoring her by getting emotionally attached with her. I would not intend to marry a non-Christian, so I probably should not date her either, unless she expressed interest in learning more about God.
16-06-2008

John Domingo says:
Thanks for everything you shared with us, Casey. It’s a joy to see that the Holy Spirit is at work, as He is convicting and compelling us to worship the Lord with every aspect of our lives. I pray that we would all recognize that we are image bearers of God, and put our full identities in Jesus Christ instead of the world. We must seek to remain in Jesus, for apart from him we can do nothing (John 15:4,5)